To the Forever Victim

I want to keep my words for you kind. But I also refuse to sugar-coat my truth because I know that the words that did me the most good, when I was down, were those that were rooted in love but also blunt, brash and bold. 

Here are those words:

Do not blame others for where you are today. Do not dwell on the past or speak about how he hurt you, how he beat you and how he stole from you. Do not reduce the happiness and successes of others to sheer coincidence by convincing yourself that they were dealt better cards than you - you have no way of knowing the battles they have fought and the falls they have taken.  Do not tell yourself that your path was already decided before you got here and that it was one of mediocrity. 

Do not settle for anything less than you deserve.

Understand that your state of mind, your thoughts and your surroundings are all a reflection of your inner self. Your emotions and your reality are derived from that which exists within you. Like water from a well, everything you produce - all of your thoughts, all of your actions, your existence and everything that comes out of you - flows from your inner reservoir. If all you have within you is negative: everything without will reflect this. But once you change this, once you allow yourself to be happy and positive inside, all of these things will manifest themselves into your emotional, mental and physical reality. 

Instead of allowing the condemnations of others to be your truth, choose to not be reduced by their actions. In the same way that everything you produce comes from that which lies within, so is this true for every other individual. Do not mistake their harsh words and malicious behavior to be a reflection on you - but do not turn a blind eye to your weaknesses. Be honest, but strong. 

You have the potential to be something brilliant.  You already have everything you need to get wherever you want to go - do not be so consumed by this world that you cannot see the mine of gold that already exists within you.

You are the ultimate creator of your life, you have all the control over your own existence. There will be moments and events that you may not have control over, but you have in your hands the power to decide how these moments will affect you. You can be happy, if you so choose. When you realize this, there is no limit to what you can achieve.

"Be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. Make all your friends feel there is something special in them. Look at the sunny side of everything. Think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best. Be as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. Give everyone a smile. Spend so much time improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others. Be too big for worry and too noble for anger." - Christian D. Larsen

Love,

Me