On Being Single

A couple of months ago I was on my Twitter account and noticed that the ever-loving, ever-wise "The Daily Love" had made a tweet almost blasphemous in my view.  I tried to find the exact tweet but that account has over 16,000 tweets, and makes multiple tweets a day which made locating said tweet a little difficult. Of what I can remember he, Mastin Kipps (creator of The Daily Love), had tweeted that people who say that they are single and happy are full of bullshit. Yes, bullshit. The next tweet read something along the lines of, "Send me an e-mail about why you want to be single or why you've given up on love." (As if those two states had anything in common.) And to this promptly did I send that very e-mail. I was hoping that I would have a response to it by now but I supposed it was deemed irrelevant to the purpose of the tweet and I never received anything back, but here is my the one I sent anyway:

Hi Mastin,

First, I want to say that your website and your tweets bring me boundless amounts of inspiration. Your ideas are beautiful and I am grateful that you share them so openly. Your recent interview on Manifesting your Soulmate with Miss Arielle Ford was incredible. Especially close to my heart is the idea of appreciating the Soulmates who are already in your life. 

Just like every individual has their own interpretation of what Love is, I find that most people have their own definition of what a Soulmate is. I am vaguely spiritual and a nomad of religions; I'll pick and choose the philosophies that most suit the nature of my soul and live by them. And with this set of philosophies reading as my Faith, I have developed a faint notion of reincarnation. I am not sure about the details or the specifics, but for me a Soulmate is any person whose Soul your Soul is immediately attracted to. Maybe your conscious mind won't realize that recognition initially, but your Souls will recognize each other. These are Souls I think that have been intertwined from the beginning of time because of how well they do for each other. They are, by nature, so ideal for each other that time and time again, Life finds them together regardless of situation and circumstance. And further, I think that each individual has multiple Soulmates: friends, family, lovers and teachers.

I am worth the adoration, I know.  My words and thoughts are beautiful, they have worth and value and should be appreciated. But why can't that adoration be from friends and family? Why does being "complete" always have to be associated with a romantic counterpart? Further, why can't I be complete on my own? I am not saying that you cannot be happy with others, far from it. People are far too beautiful to give up on. But I think it's important to distinguish dependance from love. I think it's important to be your own source of happiness because you are the only constant in your life. If you learned to be your own source of happiness, when would you ever be unhappy?

Being happy together doesn't eliminate the possibility of being happy apart, in fact I think it's imperative to learn to be complete and happy on your own before you embark on a relationship so that you can contribute all of your beauty, ideas and values in all of their entirety to each relationship. 

Why is being single synonymous with being alone?

It is not that I want to be single or that I want to be in a relationship. What I want is to do what's right for me, and that is exactly what I'll do. I will let Life and the universe throw at me what they will and I will make my choices accordingly. 

I am single and I have the most beautiful people in my life, they have shown and taught me the most beautiful things. I am not alone. Their souls and minds are my guides and my peers while I search for my inner divine Soul. So I think the question is not, "Why do you want to be single?" but, "Why do you want to be you?"