On Being Single

A couple of months ago I was on my Twitter account and noticed that the ever-loving, ever-wise "The Daily Love" had made a tweet almost blasphemous in my view.  I tried to find the exact tweet but that account has over 16,000 tweets, and makes multiple tweets a day which made locating said tweet a little difficult. Of what I can remember he, Mastin Kipps (creator of The Daily Love), had tweeted that people who say that they are single and happy are full of bullshit. Yes, bullshit. The next tweet read something along the lines of, "Send me an e-mail about why you want to be single or why you've given up on love." (As if those two states had anything in common.) And to this promptly did I send that very e-mail. I was hoping that I would have a response to it by now but I supposed it was deemed irrelevant to the purpose of the tweet and I never received anything back, but here is my the one I sent anyway:

Hi Mastin,

First, I want to say that your website and your tweets bring me boundless amounts of inspiration. Your ideas are beautiful and I am grateful that you share them so openly. Your recent interview on Manifesting your Soulmate with Miss Arielle Ford was incredible. Especially close to my heart is the idea of appreciating the Soulmates who are already in your life. 

Just like every individual has their own interpretation of what Love is, I find that most people have their own definition of what a Soulmate is. I am vaguely spiritual and a nomad of religions; I'll pick and choose the philosophies that most suit the nature of my soul and live by them. And with this set of philosophies reading as my Faith, I have developed a faint notion of reincarnation. I am not sure about the details or the specifics, but for me a Soulmate is any person whose Soul your Soul is immediately attracted to. Maybe your conscious mind won't realize that recognition initially, but your Souls will recognize each other. These are Souls I think that have been intertwined from the beginning of time because of how well they do for each other. They are, by nature, so ideal for each other that time and time again, Life finds them together regardless of situation and circumstance. And further, I think that each individual has multiple Soulmates: friends, family, lovers and teachers.

I am worth the adoration, I know.  My words and thoughts are beautiful, they have worth and value and should be appreciated. But why can't that adoration be from friends and family? Why does being "complete" always have to be associated with a romantic counterpart? Further, why can't I be complete on my own? I am not saying that you cannot be happy with others, far from it. People are far too beautiful to give up on. But I think it's important to distinguish dependance from love. I think it's important to be your own source of happiness because you are the only constant in your life. If you learned to be your own source of happiness, when would you ever be unhappy?

Being happy together doesn't eliminate the possibility of being happy apart, in fact I think it's imperative to learn to be complete and happy on your own before you embark on a relationship so that you can contribute all of your beauty, ideas and values in all of their entirety to each relationship. 

Why is being single synonymous with being alone?

It is not that I want to be single or that I want to be in a relationship. What I want is to do what's right for me, and that is exactly what I'll do. I will let Life and the universe throw at me what they will and I will make my choices accordingly. 

I am single and I have the most beautiful people in my life, they have shown and taught me the most beautiful things. I am not alone. Their souls and minds are my guides and my peers while I search for my inner divine Soul. So I think the question is not, "Why do you want to be single?" but, "Why do you want to be you?"

"My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy"

I think one of the most important elements of a person's life is the legacy they leave. I also think that a legacy inspired by the art you create during the course of your life is one that surpasses all others.   And by art I don't mean only the type created by professional artists, musicians, actors, writers and the like, I mean the art that you create every day. I mean the type of art you create and feel solely by nature of your existence. And it's this art that you leave as a legacy to the universe.

I was talking to a friend about how beautiful Adele's music was, the monumental power of her voice and the way her words just haunt you. On complaining about how much I hated that people were unable to appreciate true beauty under the guise of something not necessarily aesthetic, she responded with words that unwittingly hit a chord. What I remember of what she said, or at least my interpretation of her words, was that sometimes you can place a woman in front a man, all of her, her beauty and her music and he still wouldn't love her.

And that's when it dawned on me that everyone creates art by existing, and to phrase it more to my taste, we're all creating our own music, living to our own ever-eternal soundtracks.  Music to the likes that has never been created in this universe. Music that is solely mine, entirely beautiful and dark and twisted because that's all that I am.  I am not perfect, but my flaws are not my undoing, they are my character. And I am dark sometimes, cruel in certain moments and far from graceful. I fall when most would stand, I cry where most would smile and I sing when I should be silent. I am entirely me, but this twisted, dark fantasy life that I am living is entirely mine and entirely beautiful. This music is my legacy.

(P.S. Squint your eyes and tilt your head a little to the left the next time you look at someone, maybe you'll see their music or hear their art.)